Is it normal for siblings to experiment

Usually, intimate relationships within the family tends to be consensual most of the time in cases of Genetic intimate Attraction, which is the feeling of intimate attraction one feels towards someone they are related to but have either not met at all before adulthood or have met after many years when they are adults.

In the case of Genetic intimate attraction consent usually is not an issue because it occurs when the people are already adults, and therefore their consent is easy to determine.

Meanwhile, in case of children or adolescents, many of them may get involved in intimate or physical relationships as a game or in the course of their confusion about puberty and the formation of their intimate identity, a lot of these relationships may lack consent or may get started without consent and the status may change eventually. It started with watching indecent web content together, and before we could even process what was happening, we found ourselves getting intimate.

This quote would suggest that there is nothing to the story and that apart front the obvious moral and social problem with this relationship, there does not seem to be any abuse. When he was 14 and I was about 9, he would come into my room at night and touch me all over.

He would say we were playing the husband-wife game, and that is what a husband does to his wife. The Problem with this situation is that the older brother achieved intimate maturity, or puberty, before the younger child did. The reason there are laws against intimate relationships with minors is due to the fact that they cannot be assumed to have knowledge about the intricacies of consent, and therefore, even in cases where they say that they want to be a part of an intimate scenario, it may not mean much because they do not have the cognitive capacity for such a decision.

In the case of the user in the example above, it is entirely possible that she got into the relationship because she was merely curious, but that she was nowhere near ready to be in it and was therefore taken advantage of.

Here are some people re-telling the instances of when they experimented with their brother or sister. I was wondering if anyone else here has experience as I do. Another user on a social media website tells the story of how they experimented with their sibling and how they felt afterward.

They happened on and off between for me, so for her. We kissed and fondled each other, without clothes up top, but always with the underwear below the belt. Never climaxed, though I remember being very aroused, not about her being my sister, more about the intimate contact. My therapist said it was pretty common for kids to mess around, play doctor, things like that. Another user commented about how they have been with their fraternal twin for some time now, and the fact that their relationship is not just intimate, which has been known to happen in some cases.

Growing up we were largely looked after by my older half-sister and her husband. If you have experimented with your brother and sister and it was consensual but you feel bad, here are some things you can do. If you are in a situation where you feel you are being abused, by a sibling or anyone else as well, there are resources you can use, and you can get help and get out of the situation. Here are some websites and helplines for this type of abuse if you or someone you know is going through such a thing.

Raising Children. This website that contains a number of helplines may also be useful. In addition, you need to try and find an adult you trust and let them know immediately that you are experiencing this, so they may try and remove you from the situation. Please reach out with any questions or comments about this article or related subject matter.

Hey everyone, So I've come across some posts on here as well as other sites about sexual experimenting between siblings and cousins. I myself had my own embarrassing and shameful experience when I was a young-mid aged teenager with my younger brother too both males, approx. It only happened once or twice and then the urges went away and only after it happened is when I started to realize it was awkward. We're both straight and never been attracted to the same sex but for some reason this happened.

The last time it happened he got a little bothered by it so that made me realize that I should stop. Ever since then I've been regretting it so much and feel really depressed about the situation.

Over the years its been coming back slowly to haunt me more and more. Nothing but shame, regret and disgust. Sometimes suicidal thoughts come to me as well. I hate myself so much for it and for while I convinced myself that I was some sort of monster. I wasn't even watching porn or masturbating at that age yet and I didn't even know what masturbating was very socially underdeveloped and sheltered at that age.

I'm guessing serious urges through puberty, experimentation, curiosity and lack of control of hormones. My brother and I were very close, and always around each so that might have also led to doing it with him rather then anyone else.

Also, I don't remember physically forcing him or threatening him in any way and there was no malicious intent behind it. Looking back at it I wish I never did it but at the time it felt 'normal' and mutual for some reason. Now I've heard this kind of stuff is somewhat common amongst siblings at a very young age but I'm a little concerned and worried because technically I was not a 'child' anymore.

I could have technically been considered a young 'teenager' at the age can't remember due to how long ago it was. I think I was maybe yrs of age. My therapist said that this stuff is somewhat common and that although I wasn't a child, mentally and cognitively I was still acting as a kid. Also, because my family was extremely overprotective and sheltering that It could have stunted my overall development and I could have had the mental state of a younger child without realizing it.

I also didn't have barely any friends and I was very attached to my brother which could have brought us closer to age in terms of development. Would anyone have some more insight or personal experience on this type of stuff that could help me understand things better or help with the regret and shame? And also would it be a good idea to bring it up with my brother? I'm thinking of doing it just to apologize and see if he remembers it but that might cause more harm then good.

It's never been brought it up yet and he never used it against me. Our relationship is pretty good at the moment, we talk occasionally and when we do its a pretty positive and friendly interaction. We're not super close as of yet but we're on good terms as compared to years ago and its slowly getting better. We've had the typical sibling rivalry growing up like most have had themselves. I also have anxiety and some OCD symptoms which makes it ten times worse.

Thanks in advance for any insight you may have. I appreciate it! Also just to add I've never had any sexual interaction with a child, or underage girl. Never had any pedophile thoughts or even thought about any sort of pedophile behaviour. Sibling incest offenders.

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Such type includes behaviours that: Happen on the spur of the moment and are intermittent. It is agreed upon and neither of them is objecting to this behaviour. The sole focus of their child play is not sex play and involves other interests and activities. Neither of them feels strongly uncomfortable feelings such as anger, shame, fear, or anxiety. The behaviour is not forced upon either of them Usually decreases with appropriate child-rearing practices and caregiver interventions where the child learns how to stop such behaviour.

What is sex play? Problematic sexual behaviours include actions such as: Self-touch or self-stimulation that causes physical harm or damage, is very much excessive and occurs in public even after conducting interventions. Frequently occurring sexual behaviours that include an obsession with nudity, pornography, sexting, covertly looking at others when they are naked, habitually showing private parts to others, etc.

Sexually touching, poking, rubbing, or squeezing someone without their permission. Sexual interactions include digital-genital contact, oral-genital contact, involves penetration, etc. These interactions between brothers and sisters or siblings in general are considered to be developmentally inappropriate and illegal.

Coercive or aggressive sexual contact, sexual contact with animals, and distributing sexual images through texting. What is Sibling Sexual Abuse? Some common factors that lead to sibling sexual abuse are as follows: An age gap of 4 or more years between the siblings.

Coercion and Violence forced sexual acts. Developmentally inappropriate sexual behaviours. Problematic sexual behaviours. Availability and duration — which refers to siblings living in the same house, therefore, are always physically available to being abused.

Intellectual and physical disability Gender gap. Certain guidelines for caregivers include: Parents can get behaviour training to be able to prevent or respond to problematic sexual behaviours and other behaviour related issues. Debunking myths and misconceptions regarding problematic sexual behaviours and their implications on the child. Communication about sexual behaviour and development is necessary.

Rather than avoiding these topics, healthy communication can help.